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attention of future times, must arise from the hope, that with our names, our virtues shall be propagated, and that those whom we cannot benefit in our lives, may receive instruction from our example, and incitement from our renown. Rambler, vol. 1, p. 298.
Fame can notspread wide, norendure long, that is not rooted in nature, and manured by art. That which hopes to resist the blasts of malignity, and stand firm against the attacks of time, must contain in itself some original principle of growth.
Ibid. vol. 3, p. 292.
He that pursues fame with just claims, trusts. his happiness to the winds: but he that endea vours after it by false merit, has to fear, not only the violence of the storm, but the leaks of his vessel.
Ibid. vol. 1, p. 126. 126.
Every period of time has produced those bubbles of artificial fame, which are kept up awhile by the breath of fashion, and then break at once, and are annihilated.
Ibid. vol. 3, P. 3.
A Father above the common rate of men, has commonly a son below it. Heroum filii noxa. Notes upon Shakspeare, vol. I, p. 14
Few love their Friends so well as not to desire superiority by unexpensive benefaction.
Falle Alarm, p. 47
Friendship in letter-writing has no tendency to secure veracity; for by whom can a man so much wish to be thonght better than he is, as by him whose kindness he desires to gain or keep? Even in writing to the world there is less constraint; the author is not confronted with his reader, and takes his chance of approbation amongst the different dispositions of mankind. But a letter is addressed to a single mind, of which the prejudices and partialities are known, and must therefore please, if not by favouring them, by forbearing to oppose them.
Life of Pope.
Friendship is not always the sequel of obligation.
Life of Thompson.
Unequal friendships are easily dissolved.This is often the fault of the superior; yet if we look without prejudice on the world, we shall often find that men, whose consciousness of their own merit sets them above the compliances of servility, are apt enough, in their association with superiors, to watch their own dignity with troublesome and punctilious jealousy, and in the fervour of independence, to exact that attention which they refuse to pay.
Life of Gray.
So many qualities are necessary to the possibility of friendship, and so many accidents must concur to its rise and its continuance, that the greatest part of mankind content themselves without it, and supply its place as they can with interest and dependence.
Rambler, vol. 2, p. 59.
That friendship may be at once fond and lasting, there must not only be equal virtue on each part, but virtue of the same kind; not only the same end must be proposed, but the same means must be approved by both.
Ibid. vol. 2, p. 61.
Among the uncertainties of the human state, we are doomed to number the instability of friendship.
Life of Addifon,
It were happy if in forming friendships, virtue could concur with pleasure; but the greatest part of human gratifications approach so nearly to vice, that few who make the delight of others their rule of conduct, can avoid disengenuous, compliances; yet certainly he that suffers himself to be driven or allured from virtue, mistakes' his own interest, since he gains succour by means for which his friend, if ever he becomes wise, must scorn. him; and for which, at last, he must scorn himself.
Rambler, vol. 4, p. 5.
Many have talked in very exalted language of the perpetuity of friendship; of invincible constancy and unalienable kindness; and some examples have been seen of men who have continued faithful to their earliest choice, and whose affections have predominated over changes of fortune and contrariety of opinion. But these instances are memorable, because they are rare. The friendship which is to be practised or expected by common mortals, must take its rise. from mutual pleasure, and must end when the power ceases of delighting each other.
Idler, vol. 1, p. 126.
The most fatal disease of friendship is gradual decay, or dislike hourly increased by causes too slender for complaint, and too numerous for removal. Those who are angry may be reconciled; those who have been injured may receive a recompense: but when the desire of pleasing, and willingness to be pleased, are silently diminished, the renovation of friendship is hopeless; as when the vital powers sink into languor, there is no longer any use of the physician.
Ibid. vol. 1, p. 130.
Men only become friends by community of pleasures. He who cannot be softened into gaiety cannot esily be melted into kindness. Upon this principle Falstaff despairs of gaining the love of Prince John of Lancaster, for " he could not make him laugh."
Notes upon Shakspeare, vol. 5, p. 560. The kindnesses which are first experienced, are seldom forgotten.
Life of Walsh.
When Mr. Addison was made Secretary to the Marquis of Wharton, then Lord Lieutenant of Ireland, he made a law to himself, never to remit his regular fees in civility to his friends. «For, "said he, "I may have an hundred friends; and, if my fee be two guineas, I shall, by relinquishing my right, lose two hundred guineas, and no friend gain more than two; there is, therefore, no proportion between the good imparted and the evil suffered."
Life of Addison.
Men sometimes suffer by injudicious kindness
and become ridiculous without their own faults, bythe absurd admiration of their friends.
Life of Phillips.
There are few who in the wantonness of thoughtless mirth, or heat of transient resentment, do not sometimes speak of their friends and benefactors with levity and contempt, though, in their cooler. moments, they want neither sense of their kind--ness nor reverence for their virtues. This weakness is very common, and often proceeds rather from negligence than ingratitude..
Life of Savage.
He cannot be properly chosen for a friend, whose kindness is exhaled by its own warmth or frozen by the first blast of slander; he cannot be. a useful counsellor, who will hear no opinion but his own; he will not much invite confidence, whose principal maxim is to suspect; nor can the candour and frankness of that man be 'much esteemed, who spreads his arms to human kind, and makes every man, without distinction, a denizen of his bosom..
Rambler, vol. 2, p. 61.
One of the Golden Precepts of Pythagoras di-rects us, "That a friend should not be hated for little, faults."
Ibid. vol. 4, P. 220.-
Friendship, like love, is destroyed by long absence, though it may be increased by short inter-missions. What we have missed long enough to want it, we value more when it is regained; but that which has been lost till it is forgotten, will K 5